Healing and Leading from Scars, Not Wounds.

Hey, lovely souls!

Welcome back to the Awakening My Heart Podcast.

Today, I want to dive into the importance of coming from a scar, not a wound, in your healing and leadership journey.

Let's get into why this matters so much.

The Wound vs. Scar Dilemma

Picture this: You're doing inner healing work, and something comes up that triggers you.

It's like a fresh wound, still oozing and painful.

When you choose to work through examples that are still wounds, it can be tough to gain a higher perspective in that moment.

This applies to all sorts of scenarios, whether it's dealing with a tricky colleague, reflecting on a perceived failure, or a high-pressure meeting.

The thing is, when we talk about wounds - the recent, unhealed stuff - it's easy to get triggered and difficult to see from a different angle.

Now, I'm not saying we should sweep those wounds under the rug; we must heal them.

If we don't, they'll keep showing up.

But when you're doing practices and exercises, it's smart to start with scars.

These are experiences you've already made peace with, ones you're comfortable discussing.

When you heal something that's already a scar, it indirectly creates space to heal those deeper wounds, even if you're not directly addressing them.

It's a bit like magic, really.

As you go from a wound to a scar, you start viewing it with more compassion, kindness, and love, and that's what we're all about.

Let me give you an example.

I had a client who recently switched jobs, leaving behind a narcissistic boss.

Every time she talked about it, she was still triggered.

It was too fresh, still a wound.

She couldn't see it with kindness just yet.

In this case, I suggested working on a different past experience, one that's already a scar.

This helps build your emotional resilience and strengthens your compassion, kindness, and love muscles.

These inner qualities are essential for you to lead with courage, confidence, and purpose.

You see, when it comes to inner work, we often focus on strategies for becoming better leaders and being more productive.

But the truth is, it all starts inside.

You have to clean up your insides before you can show up differently.

It's like they say, you need to love yourself before you can love others.

Self-leadership is the foundation, and when you're hiding parts of yourself, you're not being your true, authentic self.

I've created a three-day practice to help you calm your inner critic during moments of self-doubt and stressful leadership situations.

It's based on heart-centred leadership and has helped countless individuals worldwide.

I'm thrilled to share it with you.

You can download it for free here: Calm Your Inner Critic: https://www.newhorizoncoaching.com.au/calm-your-inner-critic

If you ever find your inner critic getting in the way and want to calm it, this practice is for you.

Thank you for joining me today.

Remember, it's all about the journey, and I'm here to support you every step of the way.

With warmth and love,

Caroline 💖