5 Steps To Recover From A Toxic Boss
Hi, Guys! It’s Caroline here, your career coach and mentor.
In this video, I’ll share 5 strategies that will help you deal with a toxic boss or recover from a toxic work environment.
A while back, I was talking to one of my clients who went through the Career Success Program.
She was stuck because there were unresolved issues.
So we worked through a couple of strategies and came up with five, which I want to share with you today.
Let’s be honest, a lot of us have had toxic bosses before and it can be so draining.
It can eat at your confidence and you're left feeling worthless.
But the only person who really cares about that and struggles with that is you, which is why it has to be dealt with properly.
These five steps are a process and I’m sharing them with you also because they will help you move forward.
1. Understand your true value.
When you're working with a toxic boss, your confidence is gone and you feel so depleted.
You have to rebuild your confidence and one of the ways to do that is by understanding your value.
You’ll need it to rebuild your confidence and gain the head space that you need to move forward.
Forgive not only yourself but also the person whom you may describe as toxic.
Remember that the person that gets bothered by all these is you and nobody else.
Forgiveness will put you at ease and open up the mindset that you need to process things.
You can’t hold a grudge because you’ll only feel hate and resentment.
You have to forgive because it will set you free.
And you have to be free BEFORE you can seize other opportunities.
Learn from what happened. There could be something or a situation that has been triggered.
Learn how you don’t want to be as a manager. Learn how you don’t want be as a boss. Learn how to avoid those situations.
In the future, learn how to detach yourself.
When you have a toxic boss, you become so emotionally attached and that only makes the situation worse.
4. Stop repeating the story in your head.
When you’re traumatised by an experience, you tend to repeat the conversation in your head over and over again.
It's like you're in circles and you’re not getting out of it.
What you need to put there instead is a trigger to pull you out.
It could be an affirmation, a song, or something that you know can pull you out of the spiral.
Always remember that you’re the only person that’s wasting energy and are being consumed by all these.
5. Have a plan.
All of the clients that I have worked with who had toxic bosses in the past were afraid that it will happen again in the next opportunity.
So they tend to shield themselves and become very afraid to make decisions.
Not every organisation is toxic.
You need to know yourself and the things that you value to judge if an organisation, job, company, boss, or team is going to fit your personality.
A job may look really good on paper, has all the responsibilities that you’re looking for and pays big money.
But if you do not have the same values as your boss, team, or company and if it doesn’t align with your authentic self, it’s not going to work.
I can tell you that people won’t survive in such organisation. It’s all about reflecting and taking the time to know yourself.